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It’s easy to think situations are exactly as we perceive them to be. Our perception then becomes our reality, and we see it as truth. However, a funny thing happens when two people witness the same event and see it from very different view points. This, of course, is why the so-called “eye-witnesses” can tell a very different story about the same situation. I once heard about three sisters who had all experienced sexual abuse at the hands of their father. I couldn’t believe the three viewed the same experience from such vastly different perspectives. One who was devastated and felt worthless, one who had felt empowered as a woman because she took charge and literally changed the whole scene, and one who perceived that she must be quite beautiful if her own father felt attracted to her. Now, regardless of how we might, as liberated women, feel the wrongness of the abuse, the fact was that the story and perception of each woman became obvious in looking at how their lives had played out.
This can lead us to begin understanding that some events may be more neutral than we think, and it is our perception that gives it the meaning it holds for us. Ultimately, it is our perception that accounts for our feelings and whether we “react” or whether we are able to “respond.” Our minds draw on past experiences (and possibly other lifetimes) and create a story about the meaning of each experience. While the story may be somewhat, or even totally, distorted, if it is real to us, we can only know our perception. Perhaps one day, we may be able to reach deeper for new and more accurate ways of “seeing.”
It takes developing an inner “watcher” or “objective observer” to help sort out fact from fiction. This is not a critic, or even our conscience, which tries to inflict guilt, but a gentle, loving presence that quietly helps us see the ego for what it is and leads us to seek a higher truth and a more realistic view of what is actually happening, It’s that voice that keeps reminding me that life is a mirror and an echo, and when I start to judge another person, it urges me to look within and see what is in me that I am projecting out on another. Some others may call this energy the “Holy Spirit” or the “voice of God,” but whatever name one chooses to call it, it is an invaluable guide to our evolutionary process as growing souls.
That inner “watcher” has helped me to redefine what it means to love, not as an ego fulfillment, but to genuinely love from a universal and divine source. It is an unconditional love that does not have expectations, not even of being loved in return, but only desires to love for LOVE’S sake. It does not play games, seek revenge or withdraw and hold back. This objective observer is quick to point out any tendency of the ego to encourage this behavior. I have learned to respect and honor its wisdom.
Sometimes, my “watcher” even has a good chuckle at my expense until I have to laugh, too. Once I can laugh at myself and know how “off course” I may have gotten, it’s easier for my soul to re-route me back to where I need to be. And, finally, since my thoughts and perceptions have strong creative energy, I am ever more watchful of what I am creating and may have to live out at some point. As my mother used to tell me that “foresight is better than hindsight,” I’m learning to do as The Course In Miracles points out: “I can choose to see this differently.”
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