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There are very few people, if any, that can say they have never felt limited in some way or for some reason. Love calls us to be responsible in some cases, but fear may be one of the biggest reasons we remain constrained in states we yearn to change.
Until we realize that our expectations of others, of events and happenings, are what create our unhappiness and pain, we are held captive in the prison of our mind. Ultimately, until we stop pointing our fingers at others for causing our pain or unhappiness and begin to take responsibility for our own healing, and for our current life, we will continue to remain in constant turmoil. We are both the prisoner and jailer, and we are the only one that holds the key to the cell where we are confined. Anytime we choose, we can unlock that prison door and walk into the fresh air. Freedom is ours for the choosing.
Many years ago, I had a dream of being in a basement bathroom in a public facility and was frightened because I thought I was locked in the stall. However, after a time of being panic stricken, I noticed there was a wide space at the bottom of the stall which was big enough I could easily crawl through, and another huge space at the top which could easily be climbed over, yet I was fearful because I felt I was “locked in.” In looking at the dream, I realized I was dealing with my largely sub-conscious (basement) desires to become less restricted by my cultural programming (public facility) and I had remained confined there because I had not seen the “escape routes” right before me! I only had to choose one and put forth the effort required to either climb over or crawl under in order to free myself.
Animals who are caged and finally given freedom, will often not rejoice and romp in that freedom as might be expected, but will build an imaginary cage around themselves and stay within those limited boundaries the rest of their lives. How often do we cage ourselves by staying within the limitations that others have imposed on us throughout the years? How often do we fail to become free and independent based on fear and the need for security? When we lack confidence, we will cage ourselves in the narrow confines of our fear. Then we will often feel trapped as though there is no escape for us, but we are trapped only by our own choices regardless of the reason. Even if we have chosen our situations for the most noble of purposes, we can still feel caged. However, regardless of the reason we have remained where we are, we can empower ourselves by remembering that at any given moment we are capable of making new choices, moving in new directions and re-writing our stories!